Perhaps the second most frequent question would-be clients ask me is whether the fact that they filed bankruptcy will be 1) in the paper, 2) disclosed to their employer, or 3) discovered by their family or friends. Those who aren’t living the American dream of upward mobility and financial security seem to think that’s a matter for shame.

A couple of objective observations are in order: a university study of some years ago found that one in seven American families would be better off if they would file bankruptcy. Second, between 2001 and 2005, over 8 million American families filed bankruptcy. Chances are very good that serveral of the families around my petrified client have filed bankruptcy, unknownst to them.

The study about being “better off” resonates particularly with me, as I see individuals struggling to pay credit card debt, where the interest has tripled when a payment was late, while at the same time, they have no emergency cash reserves, no retirement savings, and no health insurance. While their choices are noble, they aren’t wise. These people live on the financial edge so that the credit card companies get their minimum payment.

I tell my questioner that bankruptcy is a matter of public record, so anyone who wants to find out who has filed can do so. But, I ask, have you recently read the news of individual bankruptcy filings? Such is not the fare of papers where I practice and they begin to realize how insignificant the fear of exposure is next to the finanical realities of their situation.

The human creature is pretty amazing that it will live with the constant stress of overwhelming indebtedness rather than risk that others learn of its pain.

Cathy Moran